Are you feeling like you’re never going to find the love of your life? Are you starting to believe you’re the last person on the face of the earth searching for a serious relationship? The last person who gave you their business card, did you bother to call or did you just email them?
Yesterday a friend and I were having our bi-weekly bonding night when we ran into someone he knew who was having relationship troubles. He had a burning question. “Are there any men or women out there looking for a serious relationship?” My friends always use these moments as the perfect opportunity to say, “Well, my friend writes a blog about dating, you should ask him.” And of course these moments seem to always happen when I have a drink in my hand and I’m in a flirty mood. Since my mission is to encourage others to Date Smart…Date for Success I decided to offer up my two cents and possibly help out a new friend.
As I listened to my new found friend, I looked around and I noticed something. Everyone in the room was either on a cell phone or text messaging. And the weird part was they all were either with friends or sitting next to Mr. Hottie. That’s when I had another “aha” moment. As a society who relies on communicating either by text or email, how can you possibly get to know someone when you’re sitting behind a computer or sending a text message. Plus, isn’t it rude to be hanging out with someone, only to be texting your other friends?
When it comes to Dating Smart… Dating for Success; success can only happen when you decide to check the box and opt-out of technology and revert back to old-fashion dating. I like to refer to it as “Dating Retro Style.”
Dating Retro Style simply means once you meet someone, you’re only allowed one text and one email to contact the person. After that it should be on the phone and preferably in person? Whatever happened to meeting for a cup of coffee anyway? Plus, don’t you think it’s more romantic to lay in bed until daylight talking with your potential love interest on the phone (or in person) rather than sending a thousand text messages back and forth? When was the last time you tried that? Did I just hear you say, “NEVER?” I thought so! Those where the good old days when romance was alive and kicking! I hope that romance and person to person communication is not dead.
When you’re in the game to find a date, companion, friend or even the love of your life; text messaging and Facebook emails are sure not the way to the altar. If you’re not putting in some serious face time, you may eventually be spending countless hours deleting text messages and emails from someone with whom you never really clicked. Get my point?
I grew up during a period when there were no cellular phones, text messaging or social networking sites; in a time when body language, facial expressions, talking and listening to one another face to face was the primary form of communication. Although the Guru understands the benefits to advanced technology and the need for instant gratification the true way of finding love is by Dating Retro Style.