Are you tired of taking dating advice from someone whose last date was 10 years ago? Are you ready to stop wasting time going on dates only to find out 6 months later you’ve been dating Mr. or Ms. Wrong-For-You? Are you ready to start asking questions on our dates that quickly assess a person’s character?
If you’ve responded yes, sounds like you’re ready to become the next CEO of dating and have come to the right place.
Asking antiquated questions makes you sounds out-dated and still they don’t provide a clue whether you’re dating Mr. or Ms. Psycho. This has The All About Dating Guru concerned. And frankly some of the questions I’ve seen would have anyone in their right mind running in the opposite direction. Why not be original by asking some of the questions below. Remember, a date is an opportunity to exchange ideas, listen to and share thoughts, dreams and learn about someone else’s passions.
Dating is very similar to purchasing a used car. Obviously, a used car comes with some baggage. The number one thing you would probably be concerned about (“BEFORE A TEST-DRIVE”) is YOUR mileage preference. In other words, if you don’t ask the right questions starting from day one, you’ll probably end up with a lemon. “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything…”
Consider the following questions that will leave you saying either, “Oh, Hell No!” or, “I’ll take that one!”
Do you go to the movies alone? And if so, what was the last movie you went to go see by yourself?
This is a 3 for 1. Asking if they go to the movies alone helps determine if they’re a person who is self-sufficient. You will also find out what type of movies they like to see. Lastly, going to the movies is considered a social event, which gives you a head start on whether they’re a couch potato, or not.
What was your greatest accomplishment last year?
I love this question, it always helps me determine if they’ve volunteered, started their own business, went back to school, or helped a friend in need. I think you get the idea. It’s nice to date someone who is a dreamer and thinks big. This one also helps figure out if their aspirations and dreams will interfere with yours or if they can be easily blended with yours. My mother always says, “I am just giving you food for thought.”
If you could have free, unlimited service for 5 years from an extremely good cook, chauffeur, housekeeper, masseuse, or personal security, which would you choose?
If you’re thinking to yourself, what can I learn from this question, well, I would say A LOT. If someone says a cook, probably they eat out a lot; hopefully you have the income to keep up.
A response to have a chauffer can mean a few things. In my experience, I was dating a chronically late person and someone who was too good for public transportation. Let’s just say, after the relationship, I was walking everywhere for a while. That’s how broke I was; don’t make the same mistake.
Obviously, saying a housekeeper is a good indication they’re not a neat freak and that might work for you!
Now, if they say masseuse, and your luck is similar to mine, you’re dating someone who wants to be waited on hand and foot. “Oh, hell no!”
Wanting a masseuse could mean they stress easily. If you decide on this used car, you’ll have to oil it frequently.
I never had anyone respond with personal security. If they did, I would run the other way, and fast. This can only mean they never read my “Stalker Alert” post. My advice, RUN! I would hate for you to become target practice for their Ex.
Who is the one person in your family who influenced you the most?
I like this question because it’s a very subtle approach to asking about someone’s family. Never take family for granted if you’re fortunate enough to be from a close family, some aren’t. Directly asking about a person’s family can sometimes be unsettling. However, this question keeps the person in a positive frame of mind. Plus, depending on their response, you’ll also be able to see if they are emotionally available and not still dealing with childhood issues. Nevertheless, be compassionate. Also be sure to be honest with yourself and trust your instinct when figuring out if you can handle it. Are YOU emotionally ready to deal with family or not!
Hopefully you can see that by asking only 4 basic but smart questions, you can end the date having a clear idea about someone’s character. Yes, getting to know someone takes time but I believe the saying, “First Impressions Last Forever” and it doesn’t have to take 6 months.
Date Smart…Date for Success!