Are you feeling like your relationship is on a collision course to the end? Is your partner beginning to act like one of the characters in the hit television series “Lost in Space?” Is your relationship in need of some extra storage space? Do you know the true meaning of “I need space?”
Yesterday, I was side-swapped by some news that a my cousin and his girlfriend had broken up. I am in total shock, not because they broke-up but the reason he gave her. I am embarrassed to tell you the lame excuse he gave her. He used the classic line “I need space.” What was he thinking?
Is it possible that my own family member isn’t reading my articles. This latest discovery gave me the courage to lay this horrible excuse to rest. Plus, with a cousin now “Lost in Space,” I felt it was my duty to clear up this misleading statement for “It’s over!”
Ladies and Gentlemen, please listen up because as you all know my mission is to provide you the foundation to “Date Smart… Date for Success” and the only way you will be able to do this is when you develop the skill to read between the lines and lucky enough to have a friend like me, someone who cares.
You may be asking yourself, “What’s wrong with telling someone you need space?” Let’s first define space, in the dictionary it is defined as a blank area, a blank character used to “separate successive words,” and the one I love the most; “the boundless regions of the infinite.” Does that sound promising? Absolutely not!
It’s a statement that is misleading and sends the wrong message, giving someone a sense of false hope. Typically when someone uses, I need space they have been planning their escape route for a while and wasn’t quite sure how to say, “It’s over!” “I want to see other people” or as I like to refer to it as the spare. The spare tire just in case all else fails. Get the point!?
What truly shocked me was his girlfriend’s behavior and how she ignored the true meaning of, “I need space”! Can you believe it, after two weeks of no contact and plenty of space, his girlfriend started hunting him down, going to his job, calling his sister, his friends, my grandmother, yes I said “MY” grandmother to see if we had heard from him.
Let’s all stop the madness! This is for your own good.
When someone tells you they need space it means the relationship has reached a dead-end. It does not always necessarily mean its final but for the moment its over. That means for you not to sit around waiting for someone to call you when they are ready.
When you hear that lame excuse, “I need space,” simply replace it with “It’s over!” because like in my cousin’s case he is back with his ex-girlfriend. Now I call that space. My suggestion, don’t wait around for someone to enjoy his or her time in space. Move on!