Has Internet dating left you questioning your own morals and values? Has making sex-videos become the new must-do? Or are you feeling like you’re old-fashioned in this new age of dating?
In recent years the method in which we meet potential partners has completely changed causing a major shift in the way we view relationships, dating, and love. I believe this in turn has ultimately modified some of our morals and values. Such things like the recent social networking phenomenon, Internet dating, hook-up sites, and one-night stands have made the classic movie “Sex, Lies and Videotapes” our new reality.
Even the way people view casual relationships has changed. It seems that a larger population of people has become more accepting of open relationships, group sex and living out their own porn star fantasies by making sex-videos and posting explicit pictures of themselves across multiple hook-up/dating sites for the world to see. Whatever happened to discretion and leaving something to the imagination? And from some of the pictures I’ve seen…well, we’ll leave it at that!
Nevertheless, the world of technology and the need for instant gratification has also redefined the relationship we have with ourselves. What we once found UN-acceptable has vastly become acceptable in order to be considered sexy, dateable or open-minded.
This all became evident to me after dating someone who claimed that their most successful relationships were open relationships. The one thing that kept coming to mind when he told me this was, “If that’s the case, why have you been so unsuccessful and why are you not in one?” Puzzled and confused I started to wonder if this is the classic case of “When in Rome, do as the Romans do!” Was he thinking that an open relationship was good for him because others have convinced him that is the case. Or was he serious (his longest relationship was less than a year).
Although technology has truly advanced our culture and the way we live, it has also made it easy to lose one quality that is essential in any relationship…respect! How much respect can someone really have for you (or can you have for yourself) if you have sexually explicit pictures and videos of yourself plastered around the internet. These may be okay to post if you’re only looking for a sexual relationship. But if you’re looking for more than that, are these media snippets really going to work? Regardless of the method you choose to search for love; first impressions are the last impressions.
In my previous post, I discussed defining your dating identity as one of the first things you must do in order to establish a healthier dating experience, however, in this new era of dating, respecting oneself is most important. Respect is what I believe is coming up missing.
As someone once said, “You have to stand for something or you’ll fall for anything! ”Date Smart…Date for Success!