Just the other day I was sitting back listening to music and one song in particular “Put it in a Love Song” by Beyonce and Alicia Keyes, had me questioning if romance is dead.
If you grew up in the late 70’s like me, the meaning and display of romance is so different from what most consider romantic today. I can remember when Luke and Laura’s wedding on General Hospital was the picture perfect idea of romance.
As I began to listen to the words of the song with purpose I began to realize that I cannot remember the last time someone described the person they’re dating as being romantic. Strangely, romance in a technology-hungry world is now shown by text messaging sweet-nothings, sex-ting or emailing.
My motto “Date Smart… Date for Success” was originally based upon you being the only component of determining the overall success of a relationship (see previous post on “Dating Smart…”) However, recently I discovered “dating smart” also means, just making the effort. You may have heard me in the past mention committing to the process and I believe romance plays a LARGE part in dating for success.
There is one part of the song when I started to realize that in order for a relationship to be successful it takes romance. “What you gonna do when somebody convinces me to believe that he can do it better, sending me gifts and showing me the romance; all this, this, and that, can you do better?”
When I heard those words I had another “aha” moment. Relationships are hard work but the romance is the glue that helps make it stick. When you think of your own relationship or as you enter a new one, remember romance is not just a quick text message of “i luv u,” it’s a hand-written love note, long walks in the park sharing stories, writing a love song, or sending one rose a day for 12 days to make a dozen. “Romance is a general term that refers to the attempt to express love with words or deeds. It also refers to feelings of excitement associated with love.” So the next time you think about sending a text consider whether looking at a piece of technology is really exciting or even associated with love and romance.
Date Smart… Date for Success!