In the coming weeks will you be meeting your partner’s family for the first time? Are you nervous about inviting a new love interest to your family’s upcoming dinner celebration? How are you going to handle, “I am not ready to meet your family?” I have a bit of advice for you; relax it’s just dinner!
All the questions above are very legitimate, however, I do have one question, why has asking someone to dinner during the holidays become so difficult?
Most of us have been conditioned to believe being asked or asking someone to meet the family is a label for “it’s getting serious!” Are you joking? Consider this, an invite to dinner over the holidays is only an invitation to eat, nothing more.
I believe deciding to ask someone to dinner during the holidays all depends on how comfortable you are with the person you’re dating and if they would appreciate the invite. For those still on shaky ground, take into consideration if he or she is not ready, or is nervous about meeting the family, if so, just leave it alone.
Plus, I would rather you have a terrific date for New Years Eve instead of sitting across the table from Uncle Joe who’s telling dirty jokes all night! Remember, someone who is in an uncomfortable or unwilling situation generally will not have a good time, leaving your family with an impression you’re dating a socially inapt person.
Often when someone is not ready to meet the family, it doesn’t necessarily mean they do not see a future with you. It sometimes implies they would prefer meeting your family under less stressful circumstances. In other cases they may feel it will create unrealistic expectations, adding pressure to a new relationship.
I believe that making someone feel welcome in different aspects of your life is important, so it’s usually just a matter of talking with him or her about it and see what would make him or her the most comfortable. There are always alternatives. He or she can stop by for dessert rather then being stuck with your family for hours. Plus, if you have them come for just dessert you have your escape route! You can leave an hour or two after they have arrived, less room for 20 questions.
Date Smart… Date for Success!