What would you do if someone you’ve been dating for less than 6 months asked to borrow money?
It’s a question I thought I would be able to answer with ease. But I quickly found out how complicated it would become after I closely evaluated my own relationship with money, which I like to classify as unsettling.
At first glance you’re able to formulate a long list of why you shouldn’t loan someone money. It’s a question that has been looming over my head for weeks since a close high school friend brought up the topic. To be honest with you, I truly have been struggling with the idea of loaning someone I barely know money. I continually ask myself: “What WOULD I do?”
Basically, when it comes down to matters of the heart and money no one knows what he or she would do. It’s just the reality of the situation.
At this very moment in time I am unsure how to answer the question. A question I would rather answer with confidence and limited confusion when making a final decision. I believe it’s not just about money but the situation. It’s a situation that will force you to evaluate and question your own relationship with money and your “TRUE” feelings toward the relationship and the person. Prematurely twisting your arm to make a decision whether it’s a relationship or person you want to be with or not! “I barely know this person. Why are they asking me for me for money!”
In hard economic times we all experience moments when we find our wallet empty. But, if I can’t ask the person I am sleeping with for some running money whom can I ask? Funny, it’s always when you’re struggling financially when we meet someone we want to spend time with and end up spending more cash than we should just to be with him or her. Dating can be expensive!
I believe it’s our disturbing reasoning and excuses that permit us or prevent us from saying, “Yes.” When someone is asked to loan money it’s their response I believe to be the true indication of how they feel about money, the relationship and the person asking.
Although, I agree with the majority, if someone asks for an astronomical amount of money, be extremely cautious! When it comes to lending money to someone you barely know, I believe the decision is specific to each individual and situation. Nevertheless, the “amount” you lend should in no way inconvenience you or make you feel uncomfortable.
Rule of thumb: When you loan someone money never expect it back but when handing it over, make sure you indicate it’s a loan. Always remember when it comes down to it, money is the route of all evil and it should never come between the human connection between two people. People and their well-being is far more important than being out a couple of dollars. However, when you can say yes; do it because you can help and want to help, not because you want the person to love or like you more. And if you can’t, don’t feel bad. Just be honest about it and do it quickly. Being honest quickly is what makes a relationship successful.
Date Smart… Date for Success!