Are you always searching for a meaningful one-night stand? Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you feel like Wesley Snipes’ character in the motion picture “The One-Night Stand”?
In my last post after a friend’s tale of a one-night stand, I started wondering if a collection of one-night stands can leave behind an everlasting impression on a person or distract and change a person’s views on love, sex and intimacy.
To have a better understanding of a one-night stand I first needed to define a one-night stand. As I looked up various meanings one definition stood out, “A one-night stand is originally a single night theatre performance (usually a guest group on tour), and today more commonly also a single sexual encounter between individuals, where neither individual has any immediate intention or expectation of establishing a longer-term sexual or romantic relationship.”
How ironic that the modern definition stems from a way to describe actors performing for one night only! One-Night stands are just that, two individuals putting on their best show until the final curtain call.
Although it’s an event that occurs for one night only the effect of several one-night stands over time can lead to the inability to maintain sustainable romantic and meaningful relationships. You become the character of your own drama.
In addition, over time several bad one-night stands can lead an individual to start judging and viewing relationships in a negative light. Based on the collection of negative interactions that are less fulfilling you become distracted from developing healthy or intimate relationships. You begin to crave instant gratification rather than establishing a longer-term commitment to romance and getting to know someone.
Ben Affleck once said, “I’m not the type of guy who enjoys one-night stands. It leaves me feeling very empty and cynical. It’s not even fun sexually. I need to feel something for the woman and entertain the vain hope that it may lead to a relationship.” What do you think? Can your entire life change because of a one-night stand?