Do you feel lost when it comes to dating? Are the lists of qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate a mile long? Are you feeling like Dorothy in “The Wizard of Oz”, but searching for that magical answer to find your way into the arms of your ideal mate? Is your yellow brick road no longer shining bright and you’re ready to give-up on dating? If so, you’ve come to the right place!
I work daily to come up with clever ideas to introduce new ways to view dating so each of you can achieve the dating life you may be looking for. In my last post I mentioned that someone else’s mistakes could become another person’s treasure and I anticipate this will be one of them.
For decades people have said that “The Wizard of Oz” is a backdrop of their lives, and how true that is. However, have you ever considered the story to be the blueprint for Dating Smart?
“The Wizard of Oz” is a classic movie with basic principles that can be used to create a successful process when looking for certain qualities in a person. Just think, Scarecrow, Tin Man, Cowardly Lion and Dorothy were all looking for something they were missing; that their respective desires were there all the time but because they were victims of unorganized thinking they were blocked from realizing something that was right in front of them.
That basic principle holds true in dating. We all suffer from unorganized thinking when we create these long lists of things we’re looking for in a mate. We are hindered from seeing and overlooking what’s already there in the person.
On your next date instead of carrying along your mile long list of qualities why not focus on the basic qualities the characters in “The Wizard of Oz” were looking for: “If only I had a heart!” “If only I had a brain” and “If only had courage!” I truly consider those to be the magical answers we are all looking for in a perfect mate. Imagine it, no longer being blocked by the idealistic views of what we want in a person but allow yourself to go back to the basics and look for three simple qualities.
I believe once we all start looking for someone who has courage, not fearful of getting their heart-broken, someone willing to exchange and share their thoughts with another person and someone who just wants to give and be loved. Now, does that sound familiar?
Date Smart… Date for Success!