Do you live by and follow the classic script of first date questions? After a first date, are you generally clueless whether you’re dating a Princess, Prince Charming or a Serial Dater? Do you recall your last date’s reaction when you asked the strangest question?
I frequently ask, “Why are you “still” single?” but now I know! After some research, I totally understand why so many are single. You’ve been taking advice from someone who is not dating or having sex in the city. And not only did I find the advice to be very 1980’s, but it was simply from someone born in a time where there weren’t any cell-phones or computers, let’s stop the madness!
Plus, most of the advice lacked empowerment of self and seriously took the fun out of dating, making it worse than preparing for a job interview. “It’s not a job interview!” I think its time for a change; let’s start dating for success!
Dating is an opportunity to exchange your thoughts, ideas and dreams with someone new. As mom would say, “Dating is a chance to expand the branches to your tree of life’s lessons.”
Now, stop applying for the job and start acting like you’re the CEO of dating! If you’re like me, and no longer believe the dater’s handbook is relevant, get your handbook and let’s start making some corrections. Are you ready?
Here are a few questions I found to be outdated, and probably the main reason you’re still single. So, let’s omit them quickly! Plus, you’re friends with The All About Dating Guru who wants the best for you!
1. Have you ever had your heart broken?
How silly! Of course they had their heart broken, you’re not dating the Tin-man in the “Wizard of Oz.” Avoid this one at all cost! Plus, isn’t that how you scored a date with Mr. Broken-Hearted? Think silly, and if you do decide to use this one have a tissue ready.
2. What do you like to do for fun?
I have to give you credit at least you stick to the classic ones. Okay, let me take you out of your misery. Here is the typical response to this type of question; “I like dining out, going to the movies, hanging out with friends.” We’ve all said the same thing.
Now, I have a question; honestly, did you learn anything from this question? “No, absolutely nothing!” So, let’s cross this one out with a black sharpie!
3. What are the qualities of your ideal relationship?
Although realistically a quality question, it’s foremost the worst question to ask on a first date. You’ve just jumped from the getting to know you stage directly into a relationship. And honestly, they heard something else…commitment or marriage…date over! At this point, they’re probably silently thinking to themself, “Desperate!” and planning an escape. (If you haven’t read my classic break-lines, you might want too).
4. What is the most annoying thing someone did to you?
If you have the nerve, if they respond, “someone asking 21 questions,” you deserved that one! However, if you encounter this response, it’s not to late to stop being the host of Who Wants to Be A Millionaire and let go and let it flow. Warning, pay close attention though; they may be activating the get-away call soon. Check back soon for the ultimate first date questions. But, in the meantime, Date Smart and Date for Success!