Are you dating someone who requires a label in order for them to feel secure in the relationship? Does your partner refer to Gucci, Prada and Chanel like close personal friends? Is your partner still introducing you after 6 months of dating by your first name only; “this is my friend”, or better yet without one and acting like they have Alzheimer’s?
Are you beginning to notice a long pause or slight hesitation when they’re introducing you as if they’re doing roll call in their head; “Michelle…Toni..Oh no, tonight, I’m with Dana”, whatever!
If this sounds familiar, I agree with Steve Harvey, if you’re being introduced after 6 months without a label, “You have nothing and that comes from a straight man!”
Since watching Steve Harvey on Oprah to promote his new book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man,” Urban FLRT was inspired to support his fellow “Label Queens!” Label Queens have one thing in common, they want only the best for themselves, so all you Label Queen haters, get ready, we’re taking over.
Urban FLRT Lifestyle Date Guru has one question; when did having a label in a relationship become so taboo? If we re-wind the clock, labels in a relationship were necessary and symbolized winning the grand prize in love. Back then having a label was similar to a dog marking its territory. When a dog marks his territory it’s saying to other “dogs” that these are my things, and I have boundaries. Flirt but don’t touch. When you put it like that, “Where is my dog!”
Now, let’s fast forward to today, being called someone’s boyfriend or girlfriend will have Mr. or Ms. Label-Queen-Hater running for the hills. The All About Dating Guru can’t believe being referred to as someone’s boyfriend or girlfriend; a term used so loosely in “high school” can cause so much distress in a relationship. Hopefully, my reference to high school has some of you ready to go shopping!
Said best by Steve Harvey in his New York Times Best Seller, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man,” “a man who truly loves or has feelings for you will give you a label. That label is his way of letting everyone know in the sound of his voice that he or she is proud of being with you and that he has plans for you!” Remember, every man has a plan; if you sleep with them they are cool with that! And never forget from day one he or she knows what he wants from you and only needs to know how much it’s going to cost. However, the one thing on your side, the fact you’re a Label Queen.
In Steve Harvey’s book, he compares cost to: How much time; what do you want from me; what are your standards; what are your requirements.”
If you’re dating someone like this all they wants is security and expects the best for themselves. They also are only looking for three things: support, loyalty and someone who commitment to the process of dating.
Now, if you give them those three things, they will know that you belong to them, no matter what and will be assured you’re not off shopping for someone new!
The moral of this story, the more separation created and defined roles in a relationship; you’re bound for the clearance rack. Once the labels do not determine your relationship or the roles society has created, I guarantee you’ll be seeing wedding bells in your near future.
Date Smart… Date for Success!