Rushing here and rushing there I started to contemplate time and what’s it’s true purpose in life. “Do I have enough time” is a question I believe we all ask ourselves. It’s also one of those things that controls our every move. Whether it’s when you’re hanging with loved ones and the pressing time tells us that we have somewhere else to be that we rush out to our next engagement; I believe time keeps us from living in the present moment. We are not allowed to enjoy the moment because time is calling.
“Places to be…People to see” is a saying that has been a part of my life for years but today I am not sure what good it has done for me. Today, I had the pleasure of visiting with one of the most amazing women in the world, my mother. As her only child it’s important for me to spend time with the woman who gave up so much for me, a woman who is responsible for me being and achieving great things in my life. The time I spent with her today made me realize the value of time. I love my mother and when I was young, time dictated the the amount of minutes I spent with her. A date, a club party, or plans with friends always limited the amount of time I spent with my mother. I was always in a rush to do the next thing and to see the next person.
On my way home today from my lovely visit with my mother, I began to realize we are not always in control of time. My “aha” moment was understanding that this is why everyone is always screaming for quality time. Time is in control and forcing us to keep things short so we can accomplish all that we have set out for ourselves. It becomes important then to ensure that the time spent with loved ones is unique, memorable and of quality. When was the last time you sat in a room with the one you love and didn’t worry or think about what you have to do hours from that moment. If you say never, I am not sure that is true. However, if that’s the case, you’re ahead of the game.
Time is a gift and a precious commodity. After today with my mother, I realized I have the power to stop time. No I’m not a magician but spending time with my mother today seemed like I was using a stop watch. I was ready to stop the watch, and I ignored the clock and just enjoyed the time together, in the present moment. No thinking about where I was going to be in another hour or who I had to meet up with, just quality time connecting with my mother.
We don’t live forever but I would hate that I allowed time to control me to the point that I lose out on days like today. The magic of the present can only be enjoyed when time doesn’t exist in your life or control you to the point you can not enjoy who you’re with. So take some time every now and then to stop the clock and enjoy the present.
I dedicate the following song, “Be Still” by Yolanda Adams to my mother who I love deeply; to the essence of time; and to anyone who is rushing around and pressed for time.