What is love? Would you be able to recognize love if it were staring you straight in the eye? What are the gestures that say, “I love you?
These are the questions that came to mind after hearing talk show host, Wendy Williams say, “What is not said is often way more powerful than what is being said!” During her popular “Hot Topics” segment, she referenced a photograph of recent newlyweds, Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom and made this statement to describe their body language. This became the fuel I needed to tackle a question many of us ask ourselves daily, “What is love?”
Statements like “You’re moving too fast,” “It takes years to fall in love” or “You cannot possibly be in love after two weeks of dating” have become the classic reasons why we no longer view love in the same manner our ancestors once did. When were timelines assigned to expressions like, “I love you,” “You mean the world to me,” “I am falling for you,” or “I want to marry you”?
Because we live in a society where instant feedback is the new trend, I find it perplexing that we are quick to frown upon those who are quick to fall in love. I agree that people are meeting each other more quickly than they used to and they marry much faster but we still have one thing in common. We share a desire to be loved and appreciated.
Consider this, the first time you had a taste of something sweet, how long did it take you to want more? Did it take days, weeks, months or years? I believe it’s the same when it comes to love. It only takes seconds of being with someone to determine whether or not they’re a flavor worth tasting and wanting more. Doesn’t that sound like love?
Some may say it’s lust or infatuation. Others may say it’s a fool in love…But I thought love is blind? Isn’t love an emotion you have no control over?
Love is a wonderful facet of life. I believe it’s when you begin to recognize the value of certain emotions and you’re willingness to take any measures to capture it.
Lately love seems to be a buried treasure we are all trying to uncover, a treasure with great rewards.
It’s like the two guys on the train I noticed as I wrote this post. They were having a basic conversation but it’s the perfect example of what is not said is way more powerful than what is being said. As they looked at one another it was as if they were captivated and mesmerized by each other. It was almost as if they were both hanging on to every word being said. I also noticed their smiles. They were smiles of endearment; smiles that even warmed my heart.
It was like the guy and girl walking down the street together. The guy playfully tickled the girl while she laughed and begged him to stop. They acted as if no one was around, two lovers in a world of their own.
Then there was the old couple walking hand and hand across a busy Manhattan street shielding one another from harm.
All are prime examples of the gestures of love we all hope for.Now, I’ll ask again, “What is love?” Best said by Barbara De Angelis, “Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.”